Marriage is a lifelong commitment to each other. This is not a blood relationship. This is not something that you have to tolerate as you are related to each other. This is a bond of love and needs to be nurtured throughout your life and you should make it your top priority.
Every couple must understand that زواج comes first and children come afterward. Obviously, the parents love their children unconditionally and they sacrifice their lives for their offspring and yet the fact remains that marriage is the most important relationship that humans have created and this bond should be given the due importance to make it last.
The most important aspect of mutual love and respect is to accept each other without prejudice and malice. You cannot equate and keep account of everything that you do for each other. There has to be a balance in a relationship. But this cannot extend to chores or love or your love for each other. You cannot, for example, say that last time I said that I loved her so this time she should say it first. A person may be more vocal and the other may not be so expressive. As long as you know that you both love each other, accept the faults along with the features that you love about each other.
Be honest and truthful and yet try not to say very hurtful things. These are difficult to forget and forgive easily. Say thanks and sorry for hesitation and keep expressing love as often as you can. There are things that couple like to do together, like watching movies or going trekking. So do this as often as possible to spend time together.
Be tolerant and do not expect too much from each other. Remember that the couple should consider the partner as the most important person in his life and other people and their needs should come afterward.Fight for each other, not with each other.
Marriage needs continual effort and commitment and hard work. ‘Happily ever after’ is a dream that you can fulfill only if both of you both put all your efforts with all your heart and soul. It is not that difficult either if the couple remembers that they married for love and that is the most important thing.